the legacy of being told who to be lives on. Even in the boldest of us, it takes time and intention to shed a lifetime of shoulds. But each time we choose to pick up an ounce of permission to choose and change, we find a new sense of freedom to unbecome what we are supposed to be and to start becoming who we really are.
I have been wondering if this pandemic, the quarantine, the quick flip upside down of normal life is a blessing or a curse. And then I moved to wonder 'what if this is both pain and blessing?'
Let's be clear that we are having to create a new normal, but maybe we needed to. Maybe this is the universe sending us a giant message that enough is enough. Maybe.
Start where you are, nudge yourself to the edges, refuse to give up, little by little... you can find freedom, you can re-create a new way, you can do this. In fact, this might be the exactly conditions you needed to realise just how freaking strong you really are.
Clarity around who you are will give you the tools to stop reacting to every wave of emotion or situational change. Instead you can be at a place of choice and purpose.
We are seeing the best and worst of humanity because we are all being squeezed by the realities of the pandemic and quarantine. But this is just a magnification of what is true in every moment of every day.
I usually distract or numb out of loneliness but instead of pulling out too quickly, I am beginning to allow myself to sink into it to learn what can only be found underneath the fear.
There is so much unknown in this season, and living with so many unknowns is disorientating and anxiety creating. We cannot change the things we 'don't know' but we can take a moment to ground ourselves by naming and recognising what we do know.